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How to Make the First Move

Watch more Dating Survival Guide videos: Subscribe to Howcast's YouTube Channel - Learn how to make the first move with these romance tips. Howcast uploads the highest quality how-to videos daily! Be sure to check out our playlists for guides that interest you: Subscribe to Howcast's other YouTube Channels: Howcast Health Channel - Howcast Video Games Channel - Howcast Tech Channel - Howcast Food Channel - Howcast Arts & Recreation Channel - Howcast Sports & Fitness Channel - Howcast Personal Care & Style Channel - Howcast empowers people with engaging, useful how-to information wherever, whenever they need to know how. Emphasizing high-quality instructional videos, Howcast brings you experts who provide accurate information in easy-to-follow tutorials on everything from makeup, hairstyling, nail art design, and soccer to parkour, skateboarding, dancing, kissing, and much, much more. Step 1: Do it nonverbally If you're trying to put the moves on a stranger, do it nonverbally: establish eye contact, smile, and hold the smile for 3 seconds. If a guy receives this signal and he's interested, he'll usually make a move. If a woman receives it and returns the 3-second smile, she's signaling it's safe to approach her. Tip The women who attract the most men are not necessarily the best-looking ones, but are often the ones who send the most signals. Step 2: Friend them Want to ask out someone you've met once or twice? Find them on Facebook and friend them. If they don't accept, you've got your answer with a minimal time or ego investment. Step 3: Use a light touch Trying to feel out a new acquaintance? Put your hand on their forearm as you make a point. Their body language should let you know immediately if an advance would be welcome. If they pull back, forget about it. But if they smile or mirror you by putting their hand on your arm, they may be open to a date. Step 4: Make it vague If you're trying to make the first move on someone who's already in your life, play it safe by making a vague suggestion about doing something sometime. If they pick up on it, great; if they don't, you haven't made your relationship awkward. Tip Extend a casual invitation by text message or e-mail if you're shy, or if you want to spare yourself the embarrassment of being turned down in person. Step 5: Don't use liquid courage Never rely on copious amounts of alcohol to help you make the first move. There's nothing attractive or flattering about a drunk admirer trying to kiss someone. Did You Know? In a survey of 300 married people who met on, 27 percent of women said they made the first move by contacting their now-husbands through e-mail.
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