Amy Roter, Suspicious of teacher
Hi! It can feel very helpless to send your child off to school everyday when you feel that he is being mistreated. As a parent, our first instincts are often to become mama and papa bears and attack to protect our children. However, following this instinct rarely gets us what we want. It is wonderful that you are being proactive and looking for the best way to go about this before reacting.
When I read your question, my first thoughts were: What makes you think this? Did you son say something? Does he only get in trouble in one class? Have other parents said things about this teacher? Have you first-hand witnessed this targeting behavior? Before meeting with the teacher, I would suggest writing down what information you have that has lead you to this suspicion. However, as hard as it may be, when you meet with his teacher, it is extremely important that you go in first as a fact finder, gathering information before coming to a conclusion. If you go into the meeting with your mind made up, you might miss information that can help your child succeed. For example, maybe you believe your son is being targeted because he is doing really well in every other class. This could be a reason to suspect that this particular teacher isn't being fair, right? But if you keep your ears open in the meeting, you might learn that he is not doing his work , and from this you might learn that he is actually struggling with this subject and needs assistance learning how to ask for help. If you remain calm and receptive during the meeting, you and the teacher might be able to find a way to mend this relationship and help your son have a positive year.