Nancy L. Wolf, Advisor on Young Adult Mental Health - also college planner, lawyer and NAMI MontCo Board Member
Hi, I'm a parent and also a young adult mental health "expert" - one of our kids was also bullied in middle school and high school so I have several ideas for you.
If you haven't already done so, try to talk to a trusted adult about what you are going through. Does your school have a counselor? Does it have an anti-bullying or "safe school" program? Can your school help you by putting you in different classes or social settings to avoid the kids who are bullying you?
At school you might want to practice responses that you will feel comfortable saying when someone bullies you such as:
- shrugging it off, as if you don't care and walking away
- making a joke in return
- saying something off-topic in return to change the subject
- directly asking - "why are you saying something so mean? are you o.k.?" (flipping it back onto the bully)
- tell the bully calmly - "quit it" or "please stop"
And remember it's not so much what you say, but how you say it. It is not easy to remain calm and confident while responding to a bully.
Since being bullied can affect your mental health, I'd encourage you not only to talk to a trusted adult and stand up for yourself but to seek out mental health counseling since you mentioned you were getting depressed.
I am on the board of my local chapter of NAMI - a national organization that promotes mental health awareness and support.
Many local NAMI chapters, in most cities, have teen anti-bullying programs and support. They can also provide you with names of local mental health counselors and psychologists that you could talk to about your feelings of depression.
NAMI has a Help Line - 1-800-950-NAMI - that can help you locate your nearest chapter.
DO take your feelings of depression seriously and get help as soon as you can. Finding a trusted adult who may know your local mental health resources would be a good place to start.
Hope some of this info helps!